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盖尔·布鲁斯-桑福德博士.D.,员工心理学家
密歇根州立大学丹佛咨询中心,学生参与和健康部门
Stress is inevitable; it is very difficult to avoid it completely. 皇冠官网网站都以不同的方式应对它. 当然,有些方式比其他方式更健康. 作为大学生, 你可能会更好地意识到什么时候该预测一些有压力的时刻,比如期中考试, 有演讲或朗诵的日子, 期末考试, 回家过节,重新适应旧的生活习惯, 毕业典礼和一些必要的社交活动等等. 注意,其中一些听起来像是纯粹的乐趣, but even exciting and fun events could be a source of positive stress; it’s still stress. 当皇冠官网网站现有的资源不足以处理多重期望和需求时, 皇冠官网网站有压力. 因此,这意味着保持健康的平衡以避免压力触发.
让皇冠官网网站从一个年轻的成年学生的角度来看这个问题, Veney, 谁对加深对这种压力现象的理解感到好奇.
Veney:
The holidays are approaching and I am planning on visiting with my parents and two younger identical twin siblings who are tenth graders. 我深深地爱着他们, 但是和他们在一起的第一天之后, 他们都把我逼疯了, 我发现自己想要避开它们. 我能做些什么来避免在这个问题上如此紧张呢?
Bruce-Sanford:
首先我想说的是,我认识到你们家庭的一些优点. 你们似乎都相处得很好,团聚的第一天似乎很有趣,也很珍惜.
从第二天开始发生的一些事情也许你们都需要公开讨论. 这可能与对彼此不切实际的期望有关,比如感觉被强加于人, not feeling fully respected for expressing different opinions and more … Note that it’s these subtleties and nuances that often contaminate harmonious relationships, 尤其是如果不公开分享的话. 毕竟, you are away at college and would have incorporated some different changes that are different from when you were growing up and no-one is really truly prepared to embrace that in many ways you all start seeing each other through different lenses. 父母可能会发现你过于独立,你可能会认为他们被自己的方式所困. It is hard to talk about because no-one wants to hurt the other’s feelings intentionally; but, 感情仍然受到伤害,因为有些事情没有说出来,每个人都感到压力.
Veney:
So is it ok to tell my parents that I have different views on relationships and how they are raising my younger siblings?
Bruce-Sanford:
是的,当然. I am suggesting that you invite dialogue in a very respectful manner; no need to lose your cool. 你可以这样说:“妈妈和爸爸, I have been noticing some tension among us; can we talk some more about it? Perhaps you are noticing my withdrawing a bit more than usual; I am not sure …” Such an approach opens up the opportunity for clarification and a deepening of understanding as both parties decide to engage in a process of sharing, 当你发现阻碍你的问题时,倾听和确认对方.
Veney:
我的父母非常固执己见,我怀疑他们是否会听我的话.
Bruce-Sanford:
我很感谢你这么说,因为这个问题对很多人来说是如此真实. An important piece is to first express your appreciation to them for something that you are genuinely thankful for before launching into a criticism. 这样你的观点就更容易被接受.
Veney:
That’s helpful for dealing with stress in the family; what do I do about just feeling simply overwhelmed?
Bruce-Sanford:
然而,学生们经常承担太多的任务. 以下是你可能会觉得有用的十条建议:
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奥瑞瑞亚的健康中心
如果你已经为健康和减肥努力了一段时间, 你可能已经知道这些基本的激励策略:
这里有两个新的有趣的激励方法可以尝试:
这里和现在的原因
皇冠官网网站中的许多人与自己讨价还价. 皇冠官网网站告诉自己,如果皇冠官网网站今天锻炼,那么, 最终, 如果皇冠官网网站保持下去, 皇冠官网网站将达到皇冠官网网站的体重和健身目标. 皇冠官网网站甚至会对自己说, 当我减肥的时候, 那么我就值得被爱和尊重. New research (see references below) suggests that it may be more motivating to focus on here and now reasons.
例如, 而不是考虑今天出去散步的长期好处, 在午休时间, 想想更直接的好处. 也许当你回来的时候,这将是一个让你清醒头脑、更有效率和更有创造力的机会. 也许散步是唯一能让你远离没完没了的邮件、电话和办公室闲聊的方法.
Especially if you’ve told yourself you’ll take better care of yourself and do more self-care things 后 你已经减肥了,或者度过了一段忙碌的时光. 再想想. 如果你照顾好自己,你会在任何目标上表现得更好. Use the performance reason to get yourself going now on essential self-care behaviors like cooking for yourself, 去上舞蹈课,或者安排迟到的医生预约.
当事情出错时,保持一种成长的心态
Almost everyone who has ever tried to do anything challenging has experienced failure and fallen into what researcher Carol 德维克 calls a Fixed Mindset. 固定心态思维通常会在什么时候出现, 在尝试了健康或体重管理策略之后, 你没有看到你所希望的结果. You may say things to yourself things that sound like “It’s always been like this; It will always be like this; this is just who I am.” 德维克 and other researcher recommend we fight back against the Fixed Mindset thinking and remind ourselves that:
The really cool thing is that researchers find that people who remind themselves that failure can be viewed as an “interesting” part of progress begin to feel less bad about challenges and set backs. 他们更倾向于接受并成功地完成像减肥这样的困难目标, 增强他们的身体素质或摆脱无益的习惯和常规.
总之,激励策略几乎和饮食策略一样多. 比如吃得好, 找到对你有效的激励策略需要知识, 指导和一些个人实验.
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